It’s probably not why you think at all — here’s my unpopular opinion. — One thing you’ll see fairly consistently all over the internet and in movies and television about prison is how much inmates hate child molesters and sex offenders. Why seems pretty straightforward as well, but I have a hot take on it that’s probably going to be fairly unpopular — but…

Who I am and my story, updated March 15, 2023 — Biography My name is Damian Delune and I’m married to sex writer and educator, Demeter V Delune. I know, I’m a lucky guy! I’m not the prolific storyteller my wife is, but I promise to do my best. I’ve been coming up with stories in my head most of my life…

This community-based program does great things, but more work is needed here in the United States. — “We imagine a world without prisons, and then we try to create that world.” — Homeboy Industries While we would love for prisons here in the United States to all implement at least some of the Scandinavian model and programs far and wide, we are aware that is a sweeping…

If San Quentin can make it work, any prison can so let’s get started. — What does this photo have to do with prison? Considering how much I talk about the horrible food we’re fed inside, you wouldn’t think anything other than teasing myself, but if you were lucky enough to be someone who is participating in the “Little Scandinavia” unit in SCI Chester, this…

Societal mindset still feels it coddles inmates at taxpayer expense, but isn’t reducing recidivism more critical? — Each year, in North Carolina where I am incarcerated, more than 22,000 people are released from prison. Across the United States as a whole, more than 600,000 people — another 9 million cycle through local jails. Ninety-eight percent of the inmates in prison today will be released in the future…

Removing programs and recreation time would probably stop. — When Demeter was researching another article, she ended up down a rabbit hole of other news stories, which happens quite often. One of them talked about rising healthcare costs in our state prisons. However, it wasn’t the costs so much as a comment made by a fiscal analyst presenting the…

Speaking to incoming inmates makes me understand why I may not want to move. — Currently, in the state of North Carolina, there are almost 30,000 people incarcerated in 53 prisons. According to the newly formed Department of Adult Corrections (as of January 2023, it is now a Cabinet Level agency, no longer under the purview of the Department of Public Safety), given staffing vacancies…

Every prison and jail are different but these suggestions should help no matter where you are. — On Quora, on Google, and in emails to Damian’s account, the most frequently asked question in some form is how are you supposed to act if it’s your first time in prison. Should you immediately go up to the biggest guy in the block and hit them? Should you just…

It is possible to keep the romance and connection alive if you’re willing to be creative. — When I first realized how long I would be away from my wife, I will admit, the time was daunting. It was never a concern for me that I would not be able to be away from her for that long, not in the sense that I thought I would…